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On Grindr, Fuentes said, there is a “hyper-masculine white worship of men.
So I guess for somebody who doesn’t fit any of these descriptions it’s a bit challenging.” He has previously received messages out of the blue from men saying “What the fuck is wrong with you? ” (to quote Fuentes), but he takes it in his stride. He loves the fact that, like on Grindr, users can identify as transgender. I’m not necessarily transgender but I fit under the umbrella of the queer non-binary.
Allegations of transphobia are not new in the world of gay online dating.
In 2011 LGBT media outlet Queerty took the app to task for allegedly deleting accounts that made reference to being trans.
But at the same time I have amazing interactions with other trans men and women.” For Fuentes, a neutral space like the internet is always going to have the best and worst of any community, even the queer one.
Grindr’s ‘tribes’ function has been wonderful for users like Fuentes, but now they want more groups included. I feel like it’s treading dangerous territory when we say we need less,” said Fuentes with a laugh.
But understanding the difficulty of that situation and having compassion for it is part of our obligation as human beings and participants in this subculture and community.”Grindr may have received a lot of flack in the past in regards to its support of trans users, but to Simkhai, Grindr is not about cultivating a community forum.
For him, trans users should use Grindr because of the sheer volume of members: over 5 million. Grindr currently has twelve ‘tribes,’ and for some people this just is not enough.
He [the trans user] felt bad and filled with a certain amount of shame.”Sandler’s intention with Mister, he says, is to generate a community.There was a lot of positive feedback from people interested in non-gender binary people.I call it ‘the menu’ when I open up these apps, ‘Oh, what’s on the menu today? they streamline this process, when you have a specific taste you can go to that.”Fuentes, like every Grindr or Scruff user (including myself), has dozens of stories of mortification, grotesquery and hilarity: he gathers the worst offenders up on a twitter hashtag: #grindrchronicles. I get a lot of men who are tranny chasers or just obsessed with what’s happening with your genitalia.As a man who has dated using apps himself, he crafted a manifesto, and a code of conduct that he hopes creates a respectful environment.“I think for trans men who are dating every time they hook up they have another coming out,” Sandler said.He recounted to me one user’s feedback of a date with a trans user who had not made his situation clear on his profile.