Dealing with rejection in dating
These are perfectly decent looking guys in their 40’s with no obvious deal-breakers, but mostly? So, yes, I reached out first to each of these guys. He had several good things going for him and a couple of things that I wasn’t into. We spoke on the phone (at his request) and got along fine. I was definitely interested in meeting him to see if we had any chemistry in person.I will add that all three of them proceeded to ask me out. At the end of the phone call, he asked what I was doing the following Saturday evening.We flirted and he fairly quickly asked if I was free for lunch the following Saturday. If there was a Masters in Online Dating, Bonnie’s earned it.(Yes, the same day as dude #1.)I responded that lunch sounded great, stating that I was free for lunch from on. I knew that he was quite busy (he traveled a lot for work and had a young-ish son), so I decided to ignore my therapist’s/friends’ advice. But he was friendly enough and wanted to lock into a date with me. This means: (1) That Bonnie is a failure at dating AND (2) She’s accumulated a lot of experiences and knowledge about the dating landscape for middle-aged chicks in Austin.Non Date #2: Not as conventionally attractive as dude #1. And I have to find a way to get reasonably comfortable with that reality. She has been online dating on-and-off for over 4 years.
Whether they're trying to find a significant other or close a business deal, they manage to pick themselves up and continue on their merry way. Not that we aren't capable of it, but we choose not to be. It's how you react to rejection that makes all the difference.It’s not uncommon for me to go weeks or even a couple of months without matching or connecting with anyone.Somehow I had caught an unlikely break at the beginning of the month.I sent a gracious response congratulating him on finding someone special. That’s how a woman goes from having three dates to having no dates over the course of two weeks. If there is one thing that most people can't stand, one thing that almost always gets an intense, emotional response, it's rejection. Scenario 1: You go out to a bar on the weekend with your friends.