Dating your best friend and breaking up
She was the first friend I made in that new city, and I’d never met anyone like her.Filling that void takes time, so you owe it to yourself to take it. If there is one major positive from all of this melancholy, it’s the considerable personal benefits I gained from this experience.Breaking up with her was probably one of the most devastating moments of my life, but I got through it.It took months (and a few steps), but I’m ready to share it all with you. For anyone reading this who has been through a similar friendship breakup, you’ll know that at the time of the split, your mind is clouded with emotional baggage that can weigh you down.Think about what she failed to do, why she became toxic, and any other realizations that caused the end.Place the pros and cons side by side, and evaluate which side is heavier.In our case, the old adage “friends and business don’t mix” rang true.(Except the alarm bells didn’t ring until it was too late.) She pushed for us to turn our website into a company and make it official.
To this day, I don’t know if she ever understood my hesitations.
It’s a roller coaster, from anger to bitterness, fear, and sadness.
There is definitely a grieving process, and you need to give yourself that time to heal, but when the irrational fog has shifted, take a moment to review the situation without all the feels.
You might find that they balance each other out, but more often than not, the reason you’ve broken up is because the cons far outweigh the pros.
If the pros-and-cons list didn’t give you the clarity you need, then you have to dig deeper.