What would you say if a friend came to you and proclaimed “I’m training for a marathon and a body building competition at the same time”?
Or what about this; “I’m saving for a house and regularly betting on the horses at the same time”? You’d probably see that they have two competing goals and that one is going to undermine the other.
She has had mixed experience in her past relationships and is starting to build a clear picture about what she really wants in her life partner. She is an avid user of the latest mobile dating apps and enjoys the thrill of having instant access to a smorgasbord of available men.
Consider these questions: – Do you really want a committed relationship in your life?If our level of commitment to our primary goal is mediocre, we are vulnerable to competing goals sneaking up on us and stealing our goal-directed energy.Let’s assume you have 100% of energy available for your dating life. Every time we chose to do something, we are responding to some kind of personal need.– If no, then feel free to engage in casual encounters and enjoy the experience – If yes, how important is this goal on a scale of 1 – 10?– What percentage of your ‘dating energy’ are you prepared to direct toward this goal?