Dating someone with a stutter
I’ve had close friends begin relationships with men seemingly (and suspiciously) perfect, only to learn much later that their boyfriends are privately debilitated by something. Because my disability isn’t something I can suppress or camouflage on first dates, I characterize myself as honestly as I can — and those who take the time to know me often follow suit.
A few months into dating my college boyfriend, I began introducing myself as person who stutters.
My college boyfriend lent me his laptop, hooked up a microphone and sat silently for an hour while the podcast was recorded.
I could tell that he was wholly, and wildly, proud of me.
After class, she asked whether she could run a feature on me in their next issue.
When the article was published, the host of a popular stuttering podcast reached out and asked whether I would be a guest on her show.
When it comes to dating, I certainly have no more luck than the average 20-something.
They engage in conversation as if there’s nothing unique about our exchange, as if stuttering isn’t a problem to be fixed but simply another form of speaking.Hi I've been talking with this guy for a few weeks. To answer your questions: I probably wouldn't tell him that his stutter is cute.During our first conversation I didn't even notice, but he has a stutter. There's a good chance he'll feel a bit objectified about this, and for most people in his position, stuttering may be a big part of his life - it can go deep and shape a lot of their personality and their life.When I met my college boyfriend, I was struck by his eloquence, his friendliness, his brains. That’s how we ended up in his dorm room, schoolbooks stacked around us, and me — stuttering, crying — spilling insecurities generally reserved only for my journal.While I spoke, he waited and listened, and I felt a surge of gratitude, as if I had found the one man sensitive enough to attempt to understand my speech disability.